What is Solution-Focused Therapy (SFT) and how can it be used to help couples?
Solution-Focused Therapy is a bit different from other forms of therapy because it de-emphasizes the focus on problems and instead focuses on what is or has worked right in the past. It’s built on the basis that understanding the origin of a problem is not always necessary for solving it. While this doesn’t mean a Solution-Focused therapist will refuse to talk about your problems (we are always here to listen!), it does mean that they will ask questions and use language that centers on the future, your strengths, and your desired outcomes.
Solution-Focused Therapy can be especially beneficial for couples who may be stuck in a situation where they are having the same fights over and over. Rather than investigating the problem, re-living arguments, and re-experiencing the pain that comes with them, concentrating on successes can lead to solutions and meaningful change.
Often, when a relationship hits a rough patch, it can feel like the problems have always been there. However, a Solution-Focused therapist believes that every relationship has a positive history.
Empowering couples to identify their personal and relationship strengths instills hope and promotes change by improving cooperation between partners and moving them towards agreed-upon goals.
Some things a Solution-Focused therapist might tell you: “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,” “If it works, do more of it,” and “If it’s not working, do something different.”
Some things a Solution-Focused couples therapist might ask you: “What’s your desired outcome for your relationship?” “How did you first meet?” “What did each of you do to grow your relationship from when you first met to your happiest times?” “If your relationship goals became a reality, what would you notice?”
Solution-Focused Couples Therapy might be right for your relationship if:
- You are ready for change!
- You are interested in short-term therapy.
- You are focused on moving forward with your relationship, rather than dwelling on the past.
- You want a therapist who will work collaboratively with you to develop goals and help you uncover your positive qualities, strengths, and resources, rather than giving you relationship advice.
- You want a therapist who values your autonomy and truly believes that you are capable of reaching your desired outcome, whatever that may be!
If you’re interested in working with a Solution-Focused Therapist for help with your relationship, reach out to us at Roots in Wellness (info@rootsinwellness) for more information and to book a free consultation!
By Alex Luby
Intern Therapist, Roots in Wellness
MACP (Candidate), RP (Qualifying)
